Careful What You Wish For…

A lot of people say that they want to get their girlfriends, wives, or significant others to play games with them. The good side of this is that you not only have someone to play with, but they are able to get closer look at your hobbies/obsessions. There is an underlying issue with this that most people either don’t run into, or don’t talk about, that being, it actually working.

Allow me to explain. As I have said many many times, I am and have been a gamer most of my life. When I met my wife it was hard for her to understand exactly why I loved video games as much as I do. She thought I was just a dork and dismissed my GIANT collection at the time as a GIANT waste of money. However over the past six or seven years I have slowly started to show her what it’s all about.

It started simply enough with the PSP and Lumines. A simple but very addicting puzzle game. There were several times that she would play it for hours either on long car trips or just sitting around on a lazy Sunday. Then I managed to get her to move to console games like Scene-It and Guitar Hero. This was much better for me because we could play these games together and both enjoy our time with each other while gaming.

This is where the story starts to go in a different direction than I ever thought it would. Once she started noticing that she was being rewarded for doing things well (a la achievements/trophies) she was hooked. There have been several times in the past that while we were both playing she would get pissed if I got an achievement that she didn’t. She would then spend extra time either alone or literally forcing me to play with her so that she could have the same thing. Now when ever I want to just have a relaxing time with a game, she usually will say, “Let’s play something together.”

Again, I can’t stress this enough, I love my wife. She is the only one that I have met that is both willing to put up with me and understanding enough to actually do so. However, you know how it is when you just want to veg out in front of the TV for hours and do nothing else. It’s just different when you have to find a game that both of you can play. At this very moment I am willing to bet that she is at home playing Picross 3D on my DSi. I say “my” because she was all about giving me s**t for buying it when I did, but when she found a game she enjoyed on the system, everything is fine. This poses a problem for me because I just got a game for my DSi that I really want to play, but I know I will have to fight her over who gets to play.

I realize that this is probably a problem that most guys would thoroughly enjoy having, and I am not one to tell my wife “buzz off” so I can play. I do so dearly love her, and am very proud to have a wife that games with me no matter how casual or hardcore of a gamer she is. All I am trying to say here people is  this; It sounds nice in theory to be able to have a loved one play games with you, but watch out. Pretty soon you will be either fighting over systems, games, and characters, or you will just have to purchase a second set of EVERYTHING to appease both parties involved.

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  • Brian Heitzenrater (FrehleyzComet)

    Nice read! I too am fortunate enough to have a wife who games. We have found a happy medium though. She plays during the day while I am at work. During the evening, we will play things together. Then after the kids go to bed, it’s all mine! 🙂